Boundaries and assertiveness

Are you running your own life?

Do you feel that somebody—a friend, a family member, or your partner—is always steamrollering you?

Are you comfortable letting others know what is acceptable and unnacceptable for you?

Many of us struggle with setting boundaries and being assertive. Sometimes it's difficult to feel confident and empowered to change the way that people interact with you, and how they impact your life. All too often we find that our words and actions are achieving the opposite of what we desire.

Learning to deal more effectively with those around us can make us happier and feel more fulfilled. Recognizing and employing appropriately assertive behaviour and setting reasonable boundaries with others helps us to create more positive outcomes. Many of us did not learn this skill growing up and have trouble understanding what it means to be assertive.

At rethink, I use a powerful combination of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Reality Therapy, Anger Management Skills, and Solution Focused Therapy to help clients understand and create personal boundaries. Clients are given “homework” and asked to experiment with boundary issues until they achieve more positive results in their problematic relationships.